In a couple of hours, the clock will strike midnight, ushering in 2010. This is a quiet New Year’s Eve for me – just finished doing the laundry. Honestly, when did this holiday become so important to everyone? I wish a fairy godmother would sprinkle some gold dust on my head at 12 o’clock and make all my dreams come true, but that is not likely to happen.
So, here is the deal. I’ve got to make things happen myself. And instead of reflecting back on 2009 and all the things I could have done, I’m determined to look forward. I owe this resolution to my brother Carl, and I’ve been making it pretty successfully for a number of years. Here it is:
No more coulda, shoulda, wouldas: I coulda done that if I tried. I shoulda done that and it would have made such a difference in my life. I woulda done that if only I had (fill in the blank).
Anguishing over what could have been is such a time waster and morale killer. I’m not a perfect person and no doubt my business could be better, my life could be better and I could be better. But you know what? I’ve got it pretty good. I had a personal loss this past year, when my beloved husband died. But what a great 33 years we had together! And I learned, as if I didn’t already know it, that I am blessed with a wonderful family and friends. They are more precious than any amount of money.
The New Year brings with it new challenges for me. I’m looking forward to what will be, not at what could have been. So ring in the New Year. Life is looking good. Hope yours is, too.
Happy New Year!